Sex advice can be hard to come by, at least from the right people. And no, we don't mean the unsolicited stories from your manicurist or very strange guy on the bus.
If you need a little extra oomph in your bedroom experience, or a reminder of what sex is supposed to be like, keep these five tips in mind.
- Avoid the alcohol. One or two drinks is fine, but alcohol is a depressant and affects your libido.
- Eating heart-healthy foods such as salmon or blueberries can increase your libido. Foods that are rich in antioxidants increase circulation, which increases blood flow, which is turn increases libido. Although some research claims there is no such thing as an aphrodisiac food, there are some that can increase feeling.
- Don't forget the kiss. According to sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D., kissing keeps intimacy at the forefront and is oftentimes forgotten about. Research has proven that kissing, especially before bed, is a way to maintain affection and make time for each other.
- Focus on the moment, not the big O at the end. Trying too hard to have an orgasm can distract you from all the great things happening leading up to one. Remain in the here and now so you don't miss anything.
- It takes the average woman between 10 and 20 minutes to climax during foreplay. So no, you're not taking forever. Never skip the foreplay, as it gets you and your partner ready for sex. In addition, foreplay can bring the two of you closer both emotionally and physically.